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IsabelleChan

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Love yourself
« on: July 21, 2012, 01:15:25 PM »
To people who have ever self-harmed

Love Yourself

Life is not always perfect. We all have our fair share of ups and downs. Sometimes, I feel like my world is collapsing and I have nowhere to hide, it is when I break down and cry. Cry my heart out. Shout in the bathroom. Kick at some random can on the street. Put on my earplugs and listen to sad songs and pretend that the world does not exist.  But I will never, never do one thing. Hurt myself. I’ve seen so many people who are suffering from depression or other disorders that they find self-harm very tempting. This strikes me. I know sadness can kill, and sometimes you feel like you are worthless, but these troubled times will be forever gone, someday, when you look back and proudly tell yourself that ‘yes, I’ve sailed through it’. Love yourself and that day could arrive at any time soon.  I take pride in being a confident person and I believe that everyone is beautiful and unique in their own way.

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Re: Love yourself
« Reply #1 on: July 21, 2012, 04:08:18 PM »
Welcome to the forum

IsabelleChan!
Here is one of my favorite songs to listen to when I'm feeling down.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pudOFG5X6uA
« Last Edit: July 22, 2012, 03:27:44 AM by DiminishingInsanity »
Namaste

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Re: Love yourself
« Reply #2 on: July 24, 2012, 07:10:08 PM »
IsabelleChan -
You have spoken words of wisdom.  When someone is feeling down, it is very easy to believe that the feeling will will never get better.  This is especially true when this low mood continues for an extended period of time. That's when people can become so desperate that they act out and hurt themselves. 

When someone is feeling so down and they can't see the way to get back up again, that is the time to reach for help. (Actually, the person should reach out for help before it gets to that point.) There is no shame in asking for help. It doesn't mean that you are weak; it actually means that you are demonstrating strength . Every person needs support at one time or another.     

My son has several chronic mental illnesses and he receives significant mental health services. When he is going through one of his very depressed moods, I try to get him to understand, 'it isn't forever, it's just for now.'   I believe if people realize that they can get through whatever they are currently experiencing, they are less likely to harm themselves.

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Re: Love yourself
« Reply #3 on: July 26, 2012, 03:04:07 PM »
Unless you can learn to love yourself, you cannot spread the love to others, and people who are depressed usually loathe themselves and think that they are to blame for the way they feel. You have to get out of that negative thought pattern, and believe in yourself. Say to yourself, 'I can get through this,' and mean it, because you can get through anything with the right support and the right mindset. Prayer can help with this, but you need to believe in its power to help.

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Re: Love yourself
« Reply #4 on: August 02, 2012, 10:06:34 PM »
No doubt we must first love ourselves before we can show or express love to others. Several years ago I read a passage that said something to the effect, that life is filled with storms, some small, some large, and then there's calm. However, when one storm is over, rest assure that another one is on the horizon. When I first read this passage I really didn't want to believe it. At the time I was going through a mini-storm and I did not want to imagine having to constantly deal with storm after storm. I figured, life has to be about more than just dealing with turmoil.

That was 20 years ago, and those couple of sentences have unfortunately turned out to be true. What I've learned over the last two decades is, "if it doesn't kill you, it makes you stronger." Trials and tribulations do make you stronger, but only if you get the intended lesson. Spiritual growth will occur if you do not resort to scapegoating, forgive, and do whatever you can to not get down on yourself.

Difficult times are a part of the makeup of being on this planet. Rarely does anyone come here, regardless of which religion they subscribe to, and have smooth sailing throughout their lives. Those that do, are usually individuals who have an ephemeral lifespan, somewhere between 10 and 30 years.
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Re: Love yourself
« Reply #5 on: August 03, 2012, 03:22:23 AM »
Forgiving your perceived enemies as well as yourself can be a great way to release yourself from the burden of hate and free yourself from suffering.
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Re: Love yourself
« Reply #6 on: September 12, 2012, 02:40:42 PM »
Thank you for all the amazing feedback. It's good to know that people actually feel the same way as I do. Loving ourselves may be hard and life ten times harder, but a small step forward will lead to rewarding outcome. Live in the moment and be grateful for everything that you have.

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Re: Love yourself
« Reply #7 on: September 12, 2012, 07:30:54 PM »
I agree that everyone is beautiful and unique. This is an encouraging sharing and bless your wisdom and openness of heart for sharing it.

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Re: Love yourself
« Reply #8 on: September 13, 2012, 05:00:07 PM »
I agree that everyone is beautiful and unique. This is an encouraging sharing and bless your wisdom and openness of heart for sharing it.

Love
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Thanks. I just wish that everyone could understand how uniquely beautiful they are. It kills me to see teenagers cut themselves or resort to self-harm just because they think they aren't perfect enough. It's very heart-breaking. The media really should stop brainwashing teenagers about 'human perfection'.

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Re: Love yourself
« Reply #9 on: September 13, 2012, 08:19:32 PM »
Isabelle, if I could only find the words to alleviate your grief. It would really make my day.


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Re: Love yourself
« Reply #10 on: September 13, 2012, 10:52:51 PM »
This is a beautiful thread. For me, loving myself if very hard. Forgiving myself is even harder. I am my own worse critic sometimes. It is something I'm working through. Once I stopped comparing myself to others or my past self, I became happier with myself.


 

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